It’s important to understand what it feels like to turn on a show and watch something that feels and looks so deeply like one of the most important moments of your life - all the way down to intimate details - and to see someone else at the center of your story, to know the possibility of that moment ever being truly yours again is gone. It is devastating. It is heart-breaking. It makes you want to stop being vulnerable, stop sharing stories. It makes you feel like you’re nothing.
That’s what I felt when I saw the pool scene in Episode 4 of Shrill.
I want to offer my side of the story and what’s come out of speaking publicly about it. This will be my final public statement about this:
Virgie Tovar, MA is one of the nation's leading experts and lecturers on fat discrimination and body image. She is the founder of Babecamp (a 4 week online course focused on helping people break up with diet culture) and the editor of Hot & Heavy: Fierce Fat Girls on Life, Love and Fashion (Seal Press, 2012). She writes about the intersections of size, identity, sexuality and politics. See more updates on Facebook.