This week I felt super inspired by #HonorMyCurves and #EffYourBeautyStandards and I decided to put on my big girl panties, make it official and announce #LoseHateNotWeight.
I've been living by and talking about this standard for.. a hot minute.
#LoseHateNotWeight is about de-centering self hatred and re-centering self love.
#LoseHateNotWeight is about refusing to give into societal messaging that some bodies are good and most bodies are bad.
#LoseHateNotWeight is about that moment you wake up in the morning and your first thought isn't "I hate my body."
#LoseHateNotWeight is about seeing your hotness and living your babely righteousness right now.
#LoseHateNotWeight is about knowing that my muffin top only makes me a stronger, hotter feminist and you can just suck on that, patriarchy.
#LoseHateNotWeight is about ending an era of self harm and starting an revolution of self care.
#LoseHateNotWeight is about shifting the meaning of health away from numbers on scales to holistic emotional, spiritual and sexual well-being with the recognition that hating your body is not healthy.
#LoseHateNotWeight is about YOU dictating the rules and terms of your life, YOU choosing what happiness looks like, YOU deciding what you will wear and how you will love and who will get to be a part of the world you create for yourself.
#LoseHateNotWeight is about recognizing that your body is gonna shift and change, gain weight and lose weight, get sick and get better and there's just no room for hate in your new fab life, ghurl. So, it's gonna have to go.
So if you believe in all these things as much as I do I'd loooove for you to join me in spreading the word. Add #LoseHateNotWeight to photos and status updates. And I'll obvi be on Instagram doing the samesies, ghurl.
p.s. Here's a retrospective gallery of pics of me living my cute hate-free life. Feel free to share! <3
Virgie Tovar, MA is one of the nation's leading experts and lecturers on fat discrimination and body image. She is the founder of Babecamp (a 4 week online course focused on helping people break up with diet culture) and the editor of Hot & Heavy: Fierce Fat Girls on Life, Love and Fashion (Seal Press, 2012). She writes about the intersections of size, identity, sexuality and politics. See more updates on Facebook.