I'm reclaiming this Valentine's Day and making it about self-love, treating myself, and wearing strappy underpants. Here are my 8 picks - 4 IRL and 4 digital - for romancing yourself:
Pick #1: this hot bra and panty set from Torrid's new collab with plus-size model Tara Lynn - they're strappy, make my boobs look bubbly, and make for an excellent secret under my puffy winter coat when I got out to buy puffy cheetos.
Pick #2: Dave's Gourmet hot sauce - it's perfect to add to my V-day morning cheesy nopales scramble, or can be used to throw in the eyes of my enemies.
Pick #3: Tulsi sweet rose tea - for its heart mending qualities and because it makes an excellent accompaniment to journaling.
Pick #4: Butter Warmers/Fondue for 2 for 1 - twice the dipping power. Who wants to share either warm butter or warm chocolate? Not. Me.
Pick #5: When Love Meets Fear kindle version - David Richo is like the old school therapist dad you always needed. Get ready to cry the tears of 1000 painful realizations that you're totally capable of being an accountable adult human.
Pick #6: The podcast Strange Magic - Meet your hosts, experienced witches and tarot experts, Sarah Faith Gottesdiener and Amanda Yates Garcia. Start with the "High Priestess" episode and learn how this archetype is about alchemizing trauma.
Pick #7: Stream My Bloody Valentine, the 1981 version - Horror movies from the 80s remind me of the true meaning of love - sending someone a human heart in a velvet candy box.
Pick #8: Nina Simone playlist on Spotify - I choo choo choose to watch myself slow dance in the mirror.
Virgie Tovar, MA is one of the nation's leading experts and lecturers on fat discrimination and body image. She is the founder of Babecamp (a 4 week online course focused on helping people break up with diet culture) and the editor of Hot & Heavy: Fierce Fat Girls on Life, Love and Fashion (Seal Press, 2012). She writes about the intersections of size, identity, sexuality and politics. See more updates on Facebook.