Secret: the more I love my body the better sex gets!
You know those awkward, painful moments when you can't even focus during a date because you're so worried what your double chin looks like while you're eating that crab benedict?
You've heard that sex can be amazing, and you'd probably be having more of it if you could just stop obsessing about what your belly will look like if your partner asks you to get on top.
I'm no stranger to these situations! I love crab benedict! I have a belly! And I also know all about double chin anxiety. My body image started to change the moment I was introduced to the idea of "body image:" that we have a relationship to our body that is affected by culture, family, friends and lovers. Even before I started creating my Lose Hate Not Weight philosophy, I had begun to question the way that I was taught to relate to my body. Like most women, I was taught that my body was my enemy.
As I came into sexual debut this affected how I was having sex. It affected my ability to gauge my attraction to potential partners. It impeded my ability to negotiate for the kind of sex I wanted. I later found out, it even hindered my ability to experience pleasure because I was obsessing so much about how inadequate I felt my body was.
On August 12, 2013 I will be talking about how I changed that relationship. My talk, "Yes Right Now! Better Sex Through Body Love," will be part of a special evening on sacred sexuality. I will be sharing the evening with incredible sexperts Veronica Monet, Jennifer Rode, and Shara Ogin!
Find out more about the event & buy tickets now! I will be selling copies of Hot & Heavy: Fierce Fat Girls on Life, Love and Fashion after the talk. Attendees get a special discount on the book!
I really hope I get to share my sexy secrets with you on August 12!
Virgie Tovar, MA is one of the nation's leading experts and lecturers on fat discrimination and body image. She is the founder of Babecamp (a 4 week online course focused on helping people break up with diet culture) and the editor of Hot & Heavy: Fierce Fat Girls on Life, Love and Fashion (Seal Press, 2012). She writes about the intersections of size, identity, sexuality and politics. See more updates on Facebook.